Many Americans want you to believe that we are all happy during the Holidays. But, that is simply not the case. This time of year can remind some of us that are finances aren’t in order, our family is broken, a death of a loved one or that we are alone.
These feelings are valid. I respect the sadness that is felt and the comparison. But let’s not be Alice falling down the Rabbit Hole. Your life is meant to be joyful, no matter what time of year it is.
Here are some tips to survive the Holidays:
- If you don’t have a lot of money to spend here are some ideas:
Think of what talents you possess and use them. Are you a skilled painter? Paint a painting. Skilled writer? Write a poem. Good at fixing things? Fix their leaky faucet. Great cook? Make them dinner. Organized? Clean their house.
2. You choose not to are or are unable to spend time with your family for the Holidays:
If you chose not to because your family is not healthy for you to be around. Stay strong in your choice. Good friends can become family. Nourish those relationships and stay in the moment with them. When we wander off in our mind and compare with other happy families, that’s when we may become depressed. Remember social media is a highlight reel of what people what you to see.
3. A loved one has died and you are reminded of them during the Holidays.
Meditate on good memories and write down what you miss the most about them. Once you get those thoughts and emotions out, it will be easier to process them.
4. You find yourself alone for the Holidays.
Focus on what hobbies make you happy and schedule your day full of fun activities. Attend church, a group meditation, or parade. Try not to stay at home if you find yourself feeling down about being alone. Have a movie on, make hot cocoa and create distractions.
Always remember that Holidays only come once a year. These feelings are not permanent and you will get through them.